Whiskey, Bourbon, and Rye.  No that is not the exact approach we are going to take here today.  Although in some places one or all of those potions are considered the precise way to get over a breakup.  Today we are going to focus on productive steps you can take to mend a broken heart and move on from a hard breakup.

Getting over a breakup is a chance to turn a bad situation into something positive.  It may not feel like it while you are right in the eye of the storm but you can truly use the problem in front of you to become better as a person, and in the end, feeling better about who you are and where you are going.

Get to Know Yourself Again

Many people if not most of us tend to lose ourselves when were are in a serious relationship.  This can happen to anybody. Most of the time it will happen without you even knowing it and then Wham, your significant other drops the breakup bombshell on you, and you are left standing there with utter shock.  You start realizing you don’t even know what to do with yourself because it’s been so long since you’ve truly been with “you”, and only you.  Take this opportunity to get to know who you are at that exact moment. Dig deep inside and answer the question “Who am I right now?”

Cut it Off

The quicker you cut off all contact with your ex the better you’ll be for it.  Most of the time this is not an easy task, however, with some discipline and probably a little help from your friends it is doable.  Delete your ex’s number, email, anything you have to do to keep the contact to zero.  Block their number if you have to. Do whatever it takes however hard it may be to cease all contact.  This is in your best interest.

See the Future

Looking forward to what is ahead is a great way to get over a breakup.  By asking yourself what it is “you” want will bring some things to light.  This will, in turn, prompt you to try some new things which also helps keep your mind off the stress of the breakup you just went through.  Visualizing the new life you want is key to making this step work for you. And remember when seeing your future not to involve your ex in any way shape or form.

Back in The Game

So you’ve done all the work so far and you are starting to feel like yourself again or you feel like the new and improved you.  It’s time to get back out there and see what you may find.  However, you should only do this when you are fully comfortable to take this step and be honest with yourself about it, be easy on yourself.  You’ve worked hard to get to this new place and you deserve some kudos.