Today’s trend seems to be that divorce is the most utilized way out of a relationship, accounting for almost 3 out 7 marriages in the United States alone. This statistical situation is also evident in other countries, mainly due to the fact that it is a socially accepted solution to many failing marriages.
However, divorce is not always the right approach. Sometimes, it may not be an option at all.
For this reason, married couples should be informed on what they should do in order to make the relationship healthy. Spending time together is always an important factor, as well as sleeping next to each other, having dinner together, and the like. However, the sad reality is that when it becomes just a regular act, it loses its essence. This is why many couples are starting to be creative whenever they spend their precious moments together. The bigger question lies in the frequency of it all.
Here are three activities married couples should do more often to make the relationships last.
Travel Together, Stay Together
Traveling to new places alone can make a person feel a little more refreshed mentally and enthralled physically. This is due to the fact that one is exposed to new views, therefore new feelings and grander emotions. Furthermore, this can lead to a person realizing some essential matters, that any circumstance can be understood in a more unique and lighter perspective.
In fact, when a person travels alone, he acquires a sense of belonging with nature, culture and all the people that live in it. This brand new perspective on life is something that is marked on a person when he actually goes out there in the hustle and bustle of studies, work and relationships.
Self-discovery is one of the best things that can be reaped from journeying into new and exciting places. As such, when a person travels with his or her soul mate, the benefits rev up a notch higher. This is because couples, more often than not, have the same goal to discover the world. With this common goal, the connection between them becomes deeper. Just imagine that when two people get to enjoy the serenity of nature’s views and be exposed to its beauty together, the mental and emotional impact can be grander than life.
In addition, couples get to have a much needed stress-relief from the hustle and bustle of their own reality. This can automatically lessen the frequency of misunderstandings and drama that makes relationships hard. On that note, couples also have the chance to have meaningful conversations induced by an environment that is new, exciting and serene.
While other couples who do not travel together worry about the future, and build their relationship with doubts, couples who do travel together need not be worried about what might happen next because they are sure to be consumed and captured by the intensity of the wonderful moments experienced with each other. Traveling together does not give them the opportunity to over-analyse their situation, but insteads give them a chance to be critical on several subjects which can make them appreciate the present even more.
Small Efforts and Gift-Giving
While most people would argue that giving something material often has a negative connotation, it proves to be an essential part in any thriving relationship. In fact, many accounts suggest that a person who received a gift may not only feel special about him or herself, but actually feel indebted and encouraged to return the favor.
Psychology points out that gift giving is a big deal in any relationship, that establishes a deep mental, emotional and social connection. Social obligations aside, where does gift giving fit into the landscape of a romantic relationship?
In other words, why do romantic partners give each other gifts? Some scholars have argued that reciprocity, or the give-and-take that characterizes exchange theories, lies at the heart of all gift giving. Such a perspective suggests that people are motivated to buy gifts for their significant others because they either anticipate receiving something in return or because they already received something valuable and feel indebted.
Even before marriage, couples tend to give gifts to each other as a way to show affection, and to get affection in return. Men often get creative when asking their girlfriends for marriage, using various gimmicks to finally put the ring on it. In return, women try to put some extra factors in their gifts, too.
That is why when THE special day comes, getting gifts for the groom and treats for the bride can make a whole lot of difference to the relationship. It’s not about the grandness of the gifts. It’s the romantic energy that comes with the act of showing one’s affection through the gesture
Aside from material gifts, small gestures like cooking dinner for each other and giving a soothing massage can also go a long way. These little acts of sweetness help induce endorphins that help a person become elated and more appreciative of their partners. These gestures also pave the way for a ‘surprise factor’ that keeps the relationship exciting and feeling brand new.
One big part of any happily married couple is sexual satisfaction. Sex is something that is (hopefully) exclusive for the couple, and it can bring a deeper link not only physically, but also spiritually. In fact, when two people are love-making and are satisfied with one another, research shows that their relationships last longer. It is quite obvious, too, since problems that may be brought about by a third party can already be crossed out.
Studies also show that married couples of all ages who report higher levels of relationship satisfaction also report having good sex lives. It’s pretty much accepted across the board of relationship therapists that an unfulfilled sex life makes people unhappy, causing underlying feelings of frustration, depression, rejection, self-doubt, disorientation and low self-esteem.
There are mixed opinions about what to do to rekindle marital sex. For some couples, it may be as simple as a weekend away from the kids, taking a vacation or cruise, or just having some time off, alone. Others may need help in reestablishing communication and may seek professional assistance.
This is why many married people should engage in many methods on how approach sex to keep away the mundaneness of marital love-making. Role playing is one of the ways couples can put a little spice in their bed. It is an effective way because it gives a sense of variation, where such ‘roles’ induce a revitalized vigor. In fact, there are many role play ideas out there that many married couple can start with.
Unfortunately, there are only a few counseling professionals that directly help deal with this issue. Often, marriage counselors focus on other elements of the relationship. While there may indeed be other factors other than the sexual relations of a couple, sometimes, talking explicitly about sex is also essential, as this integral aspect may play a big role in the romantic integrity in the relationship.