Today’s trend seems to be that divorce is the most utilized way out of a relationship, accounting for almost 3 out 7 marriages in the United States alone.  This statistical situation is also evident in other countries, mainly due to the fact that it is a socially accepted solution to many failing marriages.

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However, divorce is not always the right approach. Sometimes, it may not be an option at all.

For this reason, married couples should be informed on what they should do in order to make the relationship healthy. Spending time together is always an important factor, as well as sleeping next to each other, having dinner together, and the like. However, the sad reality is that when it becomes just a regular act, it loses its essence. This is why many couples are starting to be creative whenever they spend their precious moments together. The bigger question lies in the frequency of it all.

Here are three activities married couples should do more often to make the relationships last.

Travel Together, Stay Together

Traveling to new places alone can make a person feel a little more refreshed mentally and enthralled physically. This is due to the fact that one is exposed to new views, therefore new feelings and grander emotions. Furthermore, this can lead to a person realizing some essential matters, that any circumstance can be understood in a more unique and lighter perspective.

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In fact, when a person travels alone, he acquires a sense of belonging with nature, culture and all the people that live in it. This brand new perspective on life is something that is marked on a person when he actually goes out there in the hustle and bustle of studies, work and relationships.

Self-discovery is one of the best things that can be reaped from journeying into new and exciting places. As such, when a person travels with his or her soul mate, the benefits rev up a notch higher. This is because couples, more often than not, have the same goal to discover the world. With this common goal, the connection between them becomes deeper. Just imagine that when two people get to enjoy the serenity of nature’s views and be exposed to its beauty together, the mental and emotional impact can be grander than life.

In addition, couples get to have a much needed stress-relief from the hustle and bustle of their own reality. This can automatically lessen the frequency of misunderstandings and drama that makes relationships hard. On that note, couples also have the chance to have meaningful conversations induced by an environment that is new, exciting and serene.

While other couples who do not travel together worry about the future, and build their relationship with doubts, couples who do travel together need not be worried about what might happen next because they are sure to be consumed and captured by the intensity of the wonderful moments experienced with each other. Traveling together does not give them the opportunity to over-analyse their situation, but insteads give them a chance to be critical on several subjects which can make them appreciate the present even more.

Small Efforts and Gift-Giving

While most people would argue that giving something material often has a negative connotation, it proves to be an essential part in any thriving relationship. In fact, many accounts suggest that a person who received a gift may not only feel special about him or herself, but actually feel indebted and encouraged to return the favor.

Psychology points out that gift giving is a big deal in any relationship, that establishes a deep mental, emotional and social connection. Social obligations aside, where does gift giving fit into the landscape of a romantic relationship?

In other words, why do romantic partners give each other gifts? Some scholars have argued that reciprocity, or the give-and-take that characterizes exchange theories, lies at the heart of all gift giving. Such a perspective suggests that people are motivated to buy gifts for their significant others because they either anticipate receiving something in return or because they already received something valuable and feel indebted.

Even before marriage, couples tend to give gifts to each other as a way to show affection, and to get affection in return. Men often get creative when asking their girlfriends for marriage, using various gimmicks to finally put the ring on it. In return, women try to put some extra factors in their gifts, too.

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That is why when THE special day comes, getting gifts for the groom and treats for the bride can make a whole lot of difference to the relationship. It’s not about the grandness of the gifts. It’s the romantic energy that comes with the act of showing one’s affection through the gesture

Aside from material gifts, small gestures like cooking dinner for each other and giving a soothing massage can also go a long way. These little acts of sweetness help induce endorphins that help a person become elated and more appreciative of their partners. These gestures also pave the way for a ‘surprise factor’ that keeps the relationship exciting and feeling brand new.

Love-making, redefined

One big part of any happily married couple is sexual satisfaction. Sex is something that is (hopefully) exclusive for the couple, and it can bring a deeper link not only physically, but also spiritually. In fact, when two people are love-making and are satisfied with one another, research shows that their relationships last longer. It is quite obvious, too, since problems that may be brought about by a third party can already be crossed out.

Studies also show that married couples of all ages who report higher levels of relationship satisfaction also report having good sex lives. It’s pretty much accepted across the board of relationship therapists that an unfulfilled sex life makes people unhappy, causing underlying feelings of frustration, depression, rejection, self-doubt, disorientation and low self-esteem.

There are mixed opinions about what to do to rekindle marital sex. For some couples, it may be as simple as a weekend away from the kids, taking a vacation or cruise, or just having some time off, alone. Others may need help in reestablishing communication and may seek professional assistance.

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This is why many married people should engage in many methods on how approach sex to keep away the mundaneness of marital love-making. Role playing is one of the ways couples can put a little spice in their bed. It is an effective way because it gives a sense of variation, where such ‘roles’ induce a revitalized vigor. In fact, there are many role play ideas out there that many married couple can start with.

Unfortunately, there are only a few counseling professionals that directly help deal with this issue. Often, marriage counselors focus on other elements of the relationship. While there may indeed be other factors other than the sexual relations of a couple, sometimes, talking explicitly about sex is also essential, as this integral aspect may play a big role in the romantic integrity in the relationship.

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Why Launching a Startup is The Best Thing You Can do With Your Life

After a C-level career in finance I decided to launch my own start-up. I was happy working in the city of London, the environment in the company was great, the owners were just yet inspiring. Nonetheless, somehow it was never enough and I dreamed of something more.

Two reasons why you should stop working for someone else

In March 2014 I decided to quit and start on my own. I didn’t know what I was going to do or which direction to go, but I felt it was a rational decision I will not regret. My main reasons for quitting were simple.

#1 it is hard to achieve high financial goals

I realised that no matter how much I loved all the corporate life and the available resources I wasn’t getting closer to my personal financial goals. Successful companies are reluctant to make late comers equal no matter the time and effort they put in.

Even when the results are above all expectations the owners will still attribute it to the company’s generic growth. It’s very unlikely that you’ll become a multimillionaire working for someone else.

#2 It’s hard to feel complete

I always compared myself to other people in the organisation, as a matter of fact that is what all of us are doing when we are working for someone else. We compare ourselves to the people inside and outside the firm.

No matter how much I put in I always felt that I could do more. Nonetheless, I didn’t see good reasons to work an 18-hour day if I will not be made equal. Don’t get me wrong I worked very hard, but I wasn’t “all-in”.

Four reasons to start on your own

It might be hard to find the right idea at the start. Most of my ideas were crazy or stupid, or both. Some of them didn’t make any sense. Until one day… I was back in the UK looking for a horse riding weekend trip in Surrey.

It took me two hours precisely to find what I was looking for. Let it sink in. With an average pay of £500 an hour I hypothetically spent £1000 doing a “monkey search” through Google.

That’s how ActivityFan – the activity booking marketplace was born. As soon as I started working on my own start-up I realized that I will never be able to go back to working for someone else and here is why.

The challenge is real

No matter how challenging your current job is having a start-up will always be much more challenging. It’s green field and you have to build everything from the start. You will not be stuck in routine ever again. It’s requires enormous amount of effort to even get your project of the ground.

If you’ll decide to self-fund you will feel the pressure of having to get rolling before you become flat broke. Trust me it’s the most motivating kick on the backside you can experience. If you ever felt like: “I don’t feel like working today” it will never happen again.

It boosts your creativity

Limited resources will force you to focus on the most effective ways of achieving results. No matter if we are talking about marketing or simply getting things done, you’ll learn to think outside of the box.

It takes up all your time and you don’t mind

When you have a start-up there is no difference between work time and free time. As a matter of fact, all of your free time becomes your work time and all your work time becomes your free time. You’ll enjoy every day. At time it might be hard, but the satisfaction of moving forward outweighs all the tiredness.

You love it with all your heart

You might have heard people saying: “having a start-up is like having a baby” and it’s completely true. The only thing you can talk of is your start up, the only thing you think of is your start-up and you love it with all your heart. It defines you and makes you complete, every success story is your personal success and every failure simply motivates you to keep on going.

Launching a startup is the best thing you can do with your life, but are you ready for the challenge?

This post was written by Elina Pedersen. Elina is a traveller (over 60 countries) and the founder of Activity Fan  – the activity booking marketplace. Elina was born in Estonia, but she lived in Netherlands, Australia, and USA. Elina currently resides in UK. Her main goal is to help people find their next big adventure, as well as to support small-local businesses worldwide.

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